February is often when things feel less clear than we expected. We started off the new year with a bang but we're still sorting through areas of focus and goals. That doesn’t mean something is wrong — it usually means you’re in the messy middle . The messy middle is the phase where: what ended no longer fits (goodbye 2025!) what’s next isn’t familiar yet (what's up 2026?) routines, confidence, and identity are still adjusting  And it's uncomfortable because things haven’t set

After 38 years in Seattle, I moved to San Diego last month 😎. On the surface, it looked like a simple relocation: a new city, new home, new routines. But beneath that, it was something bigger . I was letting go of a chapter of my life that no longer fit. I've craved living in a warmer climate for a long time and a lot of personal change the last few years had me thinking, "what am I waiting for?" I've only been here a month now and, while there is so much I love about it (we

Identity in motion is a real thing - we evolve, grow, learn, shed and absorb aspects of our identity as our circumstances change. Sometimes those changes happen TO us which makes it extra challenging. Layoffs, a restructure at work or a new job are examples of things that shift our identity, sometimes without any warning. It's not just about losing a job (in the example of a layoff) — it's about losing the story you told yourself about who you are. A job loss affects how you

Wow! What a jam packed summer in Seattle!  Knowing that I'm moving away for good soon meant getting it all in this summer - time with...